My preschooler recently asked me, “Mommy, since Baby Sister is in your belly, that means she is always with you, right?” I told her yes, that is true, but the more I think of it the more I realize that as mothers, our children are always with us, even after childbirth.
Reflections on Motherhood
The old saying that having a child is like your heart walk around outside your body is so true whether a woman has one child or five. Children never leave their mother’s hearts. I wish I could explain to my daughter that even when she is at school, or out with someone besides me, she is still with me. She is always part of me. And she will never be separated, no matter how far apart we are.
I love my mother as the trees love water and sunshine –
she helps me grow, prosper, and reach great heights.
I am so lucky to have an amazing mother who has given me the best tools to raise my kids in an honest and loving way. She is such an inspiration to me, in how I strive for my goals, treat my loved ones, and interact with people in everyday life. When I was young, she was in school, first getting her bachelor’s degree and then her master’s, all while working full-time and having a family. On the weekends when my dad was working, she would take me and my brother to the library so she could do some research and my brother and I would take out a big stack of books for the week.
After we finished our errands, we would go home and spend the rest of the weekend all reading together. In the winter, it was super cozy to sit by the woodstove with Choose Your Own Adventure or Judy Blume and just devour the pages. I know that my mother still carries guilt for having to spend so much time in school, but when I look back on it I see us spending the weekends together and learning to love reading. She taught me the value of hard work, changing our family situation because she was so determined to do so and had the support of my dad to do it.
This mother’s day, as I am about to become a mother for the third time, I think about the female role models in my life. My mom and my beloved late grandmother are a huge part of who I am today. I am so thankful my mother has such a close relationship with my kids, and I just hope I can teach them how amazing was their great-grandmother (and great-grandfather).
My beautiful, amazing and beloved Grandma with her great-granddaughter. She always had so much love in her heart for all different people. She used what little she had at the holidays to thank those who had helped my grandparents throughout the year and also those who had much less. She had this quiet grace about her and she never denied her love to those close to her. I see so much of her in baby #1 and I am proud. I miss my grandma every single day but seeing her in my daughter just helps to keep her alive in my heart.